” My partner had an affair and it’s like my whole world is crashing down around me. I’m furious and hurt and not sure what to do next. I don’t know if I even want to try to make this work.”
It might have been something you’ve suspected for a while, or it might have been like a punch to the gut when you found out. Either way, finding out that your partner had an affair is one of the most disorienting emotional roller coasters ever. Figuring out what to do about your relationship might seem impossible right now, especially if just managing your own emotions to get through the day is taking all your energy.
“My partner literally just up and left me, like it was nothing at all. I’m stunned and I seem to go back and forth between intense anger and overwhelming sadness and distress about everything that is going to change.”
No warning, no signs, and now what? When you ask for an explanation, the one you get (if you even get one) might not make much sense at all. Depending on where you are in your lives right now, the decision your partner made will impact you in different ways. This is a significant loss, even though we don’t typically talk about it in the same way as we do when someone dies. That lack of acknowledgement and understanding from others just compounds the pain.
YOU CAN FIND A WAY THROUGH THIS.
Finding support right now is crucial, whether that’s confiding in a trusted friend, family member, pastor/spiritual leader, or seeking therapy/counseling. If you are interested in the professional support that a therapist can provide, please reach out! There’s a contact form right here on this page that gets sent straight to me. Your first 30 minutes are totally free – no risk consultation – so you can find out if we might be a good fit and ask any questions you might have about how therapy can help
Bring your emotions in with you. Bring it all. I want to help, and I love watching the transformation as my clients go from devastation to confronting the pain of an affair or abandonment to healing into someone even stronger. I want to help you break down the anger, the depression, the insecurity, the pain, the grief, everything you come in with and start rebuilding your strength and self-definition.
If you are interested in talking with me more, please reach out! There’s a contact form right here on this page that gets sent straight to me. Your first 30 minutes are totally free – no risk consultation – so you can find out if we might be a good fit and ask any questions you might have about how therapy can help.
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Nicole Stone, MS LMFT is a relationship-minded and marriage-friendly therapist passionate about working with adults and couples facing anxiety, relationship crisis, and the divorce/separation experience. She offers individual, couple, and group therapy services in the North Raleigh, NC area.